I have had the opportunity to see and help hundreds of families deal with the transfer of assets after the passing of a loved one. All the smooth transitions had a single commonality; the plan was communicated clearly, and often multiple times over many years. I’ve witnessed firsthand the importance of proactive financial planning and open communication within families. One of the most effective ways to achieve this is through annual family legacy meetings. Today, I want to dive deep into why these meetings are absolutely essential for your family’s financial well-being.
I once had a client who found herself in a dilemma after her father’s passing. She was the primary beneficiary of a small bank account, but the intentions behind this asset transfer were never discussed. This lack of communication left her wondering whether the account was meant as a thank you for her caregiving or if it should be divided equally among her siblings. In the end, she chose the latter option to avoid potential conflicts. While I truly believe that her father meant this as a blessing, it instead simply created angst. While this is a relatively simple illustration, it really goes to show how simple communication can help keep hard feelings at bay and lead to deeper and more fulfilling relationships with those whom you care the most about.
What is a Family Legacy Meeting?
A family legacy meeting can be as simple or as involved as you’d like it to be. Stated simply, this is a time each year that a family gathers and discusses their plans and goals for the wealth you’ve created over your lifetime. Typically, this will look like both spouses sitting down with all their children (and optionally, children’s spouses), but depending on the exact family makeup, that could look different for each family. The main thing is that the decision-makers are given a chance to communicate at one time with all the people who will be directly impacted by the decisions they are making. It’s not the same as communicating with each person individually as that can often lead to miscommunication when one family member understood things differently from another.
Five Reasons for Holding a Family Legacy Meeting
1. Clear Communication
At its core, the annual family legacy meeting serves as a platform for open communication and transparency. It’s a time when parents or decision-makers can share their estate planning wishes directly with their loved ones. This direct line of communication allows for clarity and understanding among all family members. It allows space and time for questions to be asked and answered so that there is no ambiguity left in what should happen after the parent’s passing.
2. Financial Education
But the benefits of these meetings extend beyond just avoiding conflicts. They also provide an opportunity to educate family members about financial literacy and responsibility. Whether it’s discussing charitable desires, business aspirations, or personal values like frugality, these meetings allow parents to impart important financial principles they’ve developed over their lifetime to their children and loved ones.
For instance, let’s delve deeper into the topic of charitable giving. Annual family financial meetings offer a perfect opportunity to discuss philanthropic goals and strategies as a family. Parents can share their values and passions for giving back to the community, and together, the family can decide on charitable causes to support. This not only instills a sense of generosity in the younger generation but also strengthens family bonds as they work together towards a common goal of making a positive impact in the world.
3. Pass on Values and Tradition
Moreover, annual family financial meetings can serve as a platform for passing down family values and traditions. Whether it’s a commitment to frugality, entrepreneurship, or pro-life issues, these meetings provide a space for parents to share their values with their children and grandchildren. By discussing the reasoning behind these values and how they shape financial decisions, families can ensure that their legacy lives on for generations to come.
4. Clarity of Asset and Business Responsibilities
Furthermore, these meetings can be instrumental in preparing the next generation to manage family assets and businesses responsibly. By involving younger family members in financial discussions and decision-making processes, parents can empower them to take on leadership roles in the future. This not only ensures a smooth transition of wealth but also cultivates a sense of ownership and pride in the family’s legacy.
5. Family Unity
Beyond education and preparation, annual family financial meetings foster a sense of unity and collaboration among family members. By openly discussing financial matters and estate planning, trust is built, and everyone understands their roles within the overarching plan. This unity not only leads to increased closeness while the decision-makers are alive but also helps prevent potential conflicts once they are gone.
You see, when everyone is informed and on the same page regarding the parents’ wishes, there are fewer chances of misunderstandings or disputes arising later on. This proactive approach to communication and planning ensures that the parents’ wishes are carried out smoothly and that family relationships remain strong and cohesive.
Fear of the Awkward
While this has sounded like rainbows and butterflies thus far, I do want to address the elephant in the room. The unspoken hesitation that I get from many of my clients is what I will call the fear of awkwardness.
Talking about money is a challenge, particularly if you were raised in a household where it simply wasn’t discussed. But just like addressing those hard issues with your kids as they are growing up is worth it, in the end this is too. Unfortunately, I have seen many families torn apart because of ambiguous or unexpected estate planning instructions. This is not only your opportunity to communicate your plan in a positive way, but to deepen your relationship with those that are most important to you.
When you are ready to start, I have a blog about how to conduct a family legacy meeting. For anyone with fear of the awkward, it be helpful to have a guide in what to talk about, how to prepare, and how to make the meeting a unifying event that your family looks forward to.
Not Just a Family Meeting
Annual family legacy meetings are not just meetings; they’re a proactive and beneficial practice for families of all sizes. They promote open communication, educate family members about financial matters, foster unity and collaboration, and prevent potential conflicts down the road. By investing time and effort into these meetings, families can lay a solid foundation for financial stability, harmony, and prosperity both now and in the future.
So, if you haven’t already, consider scheduling your first annual family legacy meeting. Trust me; you’ll thank yourself later. Your financial future and family harmony depend on it!
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This post is for education and entertainment purposes only. Nothing should be construed as investment, tax, or legal advice.